When life throws you lemons, make grapefruit juice. Then sit back and let the world wonder how you did it.
This is how I feel about parenting really. So many trials and challenges, it is rarely straightforward. These constant battles, particularly the ones we feel we have to prove to the world enable us to show our strength and worth as good parents. Nobody said it was going to be easy, but nobody told us about the judgements and ongoing need to prove our love.
The naivety and calm of our children should be emulated by ourselves and we should be proud of what we have achieved. Let them judge, let them wonder.
Anything is possible! Accomplish your dreams!
Within my job I am a keen advocate of safe sleep for babies. Around 5 babies each day die for no known reason. Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) cannot always be prevented, there is not enough research out there yet to know what exactly causes an infant to suddenly die, devastating whole families.
There is however some key things that parents can do to make sleep safer.
The Lullaby Trust is a great website with a lot of information for new and experienced parents. Guidelines change regularly and this charity carries the most up to date facts and figures. New equipment, bedding and toys are always becoming available and The Lullaby Trust is happy to answer any questions you may have.
Check out the website here: www.lullabytrust.org.uk
Here is a short video with the basics of reducing the risk of SIDS, share with as many people as possible!
Car seats are the bane of my life at the moment. We currently own 4, 2 for dude and 2 for bear, one in each car. My parents look after the boys whilst im at work and so it was inevitable with the school runs, we would need 2 more seats for their car.
For bear we eventually decided on a group 1/2/3 seat so that the seat could grow with him and we wouldn’t have to pay out for yet another seat. Although we are huge advocates of extended rear facing, it was just not feasible in my parent’s small car nor did we have the funds to purchase another ERF.
We bought the Joie Elevate through www.very.co.uk for a reasonable £49.99. When it arrived it was easy to assemble, the booster base simply slotted onto the high back.
- The seat is well cushioned providing a comfortable seat for the child. It was also easily removable in order to put it through the wash.
- Now the weather is warming up, the mesh sides have been great. I always find that car seats make children warm up very quickly and this airflow through the seat definitely keeps them cooler.
- The 5 point harness so far has been great, I get so fed up with straps that constantly twist but these have been easy to buckle with.
- Once installed the car seat is very secure with the 3 point car seat belt. Theres no movement with the seat and I felt confident that it will protect my son.
- It has a handy cup or snack holder which is definitely a plus for us as bear is constantly dropping any type of bowl I give to him in the car.
The Cons (There aren’t many!):
- The seat is installed with a seat belt, I much prefer the security of isofix and an option for this would have been great.
- The release button to lengthen the straps is tricky to get to but tighening is easy.
- Although marketed from 9 months, i believe it is not suitable for a child this young. It is much more suited from 2 years onwards. Babies under this age still nap in the car quite often and there is no recline with the seat meaning that when the child falls asleep their head flops forward. Not only is this a suffocation risk (chin on chest, blocking airway) but it is so uncomfortable for the child.
Overall Bear has been very comfortable in this seat other than when he falls asleep. Its a highly affordable car seat and as it grows with your child its also cost effective. It is listed as fitting most popular cars and it is light and easy to transfer between vehicles.
I would definitely recommend the seat for any toddler over 2 years.
More information is available here and it is available to buy in most retailers.
Disclaimer – All views in this post are mine and in no way affiliated with the company or brand.
Do you sometimes wonder if you are actually cut out to be a mother?
My eldest is 5 this week and I am suddenly realising that I don’t have that ‘natural’ mummy gene. I thought I did but I don’t think I do. My youngest is 21 months old. He is at that testing age- pushing boundaries and learning about the frustrating world around him. I have to constantly be on my toes. Watching, catching, teaching.
I have come to realise that I’ve become that shouty mother, the one everyone looks at in the street as you bellow after your child who has clearly forgotten all that you have tried to teach them or have you taught them wrong? The frustrated mum with the whingy child, but are they whingy? Or are you just not giving them enough attention. I’ve become the mum who is too embarrassed to let anyone in the house, where housework production has halted as I just can’t seem to find time between juggling the kids and work/university. And whilst tidying one thing, the boys are making more mess elsewhere. But that’s not the kids fault, maybe that’s my fault for taking on too much and thinking I could further my career aswell as bring up my young family. I’ve become the mum who rarely takes her children to the park, soft play or any other activity that might involve a lot of people. I struggle in busy places, too frustrated and worried resulting in the boys having a rubbish time. The boys miss out as I feel I can’t cope.
I can’t seem to lovingly mother anymore, I feel like I’ve turned into a well oiled machine, doing what has to be done everyday to keep the boys fed, clean and entertained.
When did this happen? And why do I feel like I’m not cut out for it anymore?
I don’t want to be this person, it’s ironic really with the profession I’ve chosen. I feel like I’m sat on my high horse giving advice to new mothers, experienced mothers or mothers needing help and here I am unable to mother properly myself.
I need to stop dwelling on it and now I’ve recognized it, do something about it.
Where do I start?
I’ve always been passionate about car seat safety. I have bought the best car seats I could afford to ensure y children are safe in the car at all times. Bear at 19 months is still rear facing in his Britax dual fix and dude uses an isofix high back booster and will continue to do so till he is 12.
4 out of 5 car seats in the uk are installed incorrectly and at present there isn’t a great deal of support out there to help with this. A company in the states have developed a great new piece of software built into a group 0 car seat and base to help with this problem. It has technology to level itself, create tension and ensure that the seat is correctly fitted at all times. It can relay the information straight back to smartphone app.
I think this is great and will hopefully go on to be sold in the uk. Car seat safety is key to prevent serous injury and deaths and technology is advancing to help with this.
Here’s a great video showing the seat in action